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13 Apr 2015 2 Comments
The actions of this judge are morally reprehensible!
It’s high time that society take a stand and ask if this judge has his head stuck in the sand! This perpetrator should be put behind bars for the rest of his life.
08 Apr 2015 Leave a comment
Originally posted on Healing Beyond Survival:
When I attended a Darkness2Light workshop a couple of years ago to learn more about child abuse prevention, I never had any idea that the film they planned to show would have such a profound effect on me. Adult survivors who had been sexually abused as children shared their painful stories in this film, heartbreaking, all, but one of them had an especially strong impact on me. Marilyn Van Derbur–Miss America 1958. She had the same beautiful smile–the kind that lights up a room–that I remembered seeing on television when I was a kid. Moments after she began speaking about the abuse by her father, I felt myself trembling, relating to many of the aspects of her experience: She’d kept the shame and secret hidden behind cheerfulness; she had a mother who was aware of the abuse but turned a blind eye; and, she loved her father–just like me. What struck…
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in Freedom, Growing Your Faith, Journey, Overcoming Abuse, Parenting, Purpose Tags: adults molested as children, childhood trauma, incest, memoir, Mother's Day, overcoming abuse, PTSD, recovery, Sexual abuse, survivor
Many people have told me how much Made New touched their life profoundly. Unfortunately, I’ve also been told that the subject of incest is a word that’s not nice to think about, let alone talk about it.
I’ll be the first to admit that the word is ugly. It doesn’t leave you with the same feeling more comfortable words do, like abuse, trauma, or personal assault. Whether you agree with this statement or not, in my opinion they’re all the same. Especially for a victim who has survived this kind of abuse.
I would like to spend a little time to help you in making the decision to read Made New and tell you a little bit about my story.
First, I would like to make it clear that this story wasn’t written for the purpose of dragging my family’s name through the mud. It’s written in a loving, graceful, matter-of-fact style and it helps you get some idea of how this type of abuse has the potential to devastate somebody’s life.
Made New – A Hippie Chick’s Journey is a personal walk through my life and what some might say was a normal military home during the 1970’s. Personal responsibility was ingrained into my thinking for as long as I can remember. But, by the time I reached thirteen years old my father crossed a moral boundary that should have never been permitted. His forceful personality engrained so much fear in me that I feared, and felt as my life was different from my siblings, schoolmates, friends, and anyone I perceived as normal.
Soon, the sexual violation that was forced upon me impacted every decision I had to make for the rest of my life. My poor choices affected my behavior, my first marriage, how I viewed my own sexuality, marital submissiveness, parenting skills, and ultimately the ability to trust in God. This list is small compared to the reality of enduring such a degrading experience. The list actually goes on and on.
Although I mentioned how much Made New has touched the lives of many, those who know me personally actually have difficulty reading it, because of the reality of what I had to endure. My advice for them is to keep reading, because this story gets so much better than I could have ever imagined.
Today, I believe that God allowed this to happen in my life for the sole purpose of helping other victims of domestic violence to find the courage and take a stand against this scourge that has devoured our country.
According to statistics, in 2013, one in 10 children will be sexually abused and ninety percent will be abused by somebody they know. Thankfully, awareness is finally beginning to make an impact.
• “About 1 in 10 children will be sexually abused before they turn 18”
• “About 1 in 7 girls and 1 in 25 boys will be sexually abused before they turn 18”
• “It is estimated that 7-12% of children are sexually abused”
• “As many as 400,000 babies born in the U.S. this year will be sexually abused before their 18th birthday unless we do something to stop it.
Next week I will address what we can do to help victims and survivors of sexual abuse.
10 Mar 2015 3 Comments
My mother refused to defend me against my father for years. Weekend mornings were always met by his demands. Within a few minutes she would witness, once again, her oldest, teen aged daughter lying next to her husband, but chose to do nothing about it.